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“The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.”  ― Ernest Hemingway, Men Without Women

According to some experts, when a couple have a baby, it’s the same as an emotional earthquake taking place in their relationship. It can affect romance, sex, money, communication and even their careers. In this section we look at how parenting changes the dynamic of a relationship and what couples might reflect on to make parenting less of a struggle.

Reflection Questions:

How has becoming a parent affected you as a person and affected you both as a couple?

What aspects of parenting do you feel, if any, you would like more support from your partner with?

If you are considering starting a family, what areas do you still feel you need to discuss in more detail?

“When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are.”
― Donald Miller, A Million Miles in a Thousand Years: What I Learned While Editing My Life

Families can be both a blessing and a challenge at times. Full of support and praise one day, and criticism and negativity the next day. In this video, we explore how families can affect relationships in ways you may not have been aware of.

Reflection Questions:

In general, has your family been a positive force in your relationship, or have they been challenging to deal with?

Are you happy with the amount of time you spend with your in-laws?

What characteristics from your own family are you proud of?

“Too many people spend money they earned..to buy things they don’t want… to impress people that they don’t like”. — Will Rogers

According to experts, money is the main reason couples get Divorced. This video helps you to tease out the ways in which money issues might be affecting your relationship. It’s important to realise that our attitudes to money are largely unconscious. This means that we picked them up from our parents and families but they may no longer be serving us so well.

Reflection Questions:

Are you happy with your partner’s attitude to money?

What would you like to change about the way you manage money?

 “Every couple needs to argue now and then. Just to prove that the relationship is strong enough to survive. Long-term relationships, the ones that matter, are all about weathering the peaks and the valleys.”
― Nicholas Sparks, Safe Haven

Sex is such a fundamental part of our relationship that we often take it for granted. In this video we will explore various different aspects of our sexuality and how they may affect how we relate to one another.

Reflection Questions:

When was the last time you both discussed your sexual preferences?

If these are different for you both, how do you manage this?

What one new sexual experience can you both commit to exploring with each other?

“There is greatness in doing something you hate for the sake of someone you love.”
― Shmuley Boteach

Let’s face it we can all do with a bit more romance in our lives. Many couples forget that men can enjoy having surprises too. In this video, we hear how Jonathon and Clare try to keep the spark alive in their own marriages.

Reflection Questions:

What new activities or adventures can you introduce into your relationship that you both will enjoy?

Now that you know that fear causes lust, and that the ‘love chemicals’ can be reproduced like when you both first met, what will you do differently together?