You could learn all the sex tips and techniques in the world, but sometimes what women – and men – really need to turn up the passion is a little romance. Flowers, dinners and dates all get people in the mood for sex, but these may not always be practical – or affordable – so here are some simple tips to try.
Studies show that when women mentally rehearse for sex, they show quicker and stronger responses once the action actually starts. A sexy email, phone call or note left for your lover describing all the wonderful things you plan on doing to her later should get her mind working in overdrive.
Setting a particular time aside for sex or scheduling a ‘sex date’ may not seem very spontaneous, but if both partners are busy, stressed and tired, it’s a good idea. Try doing something special such as dressing up or opening a bottle of champagne to make it more of an event.
Share a warm bath. Heat helps get rid of tension and bathing together helps couples to connect in a sensual way. Grooming techniques are used by animals to bond so try washing each other’s hair or shaving one another.
Spend time on foreplay.The Kinsey Institute found that when women received over 20 minutes of foreplay, nearly 93% of them experienced orgasm. If you can devote some of those twenty minutes to a sensual body rub, even better!
Couples who have been together long-term know one another ‘hot’ buttons and sometimes tend to concentrate on these while ignoring less obvious erogenous zones. Try slowing down the pace initially and spending time exploring your lover’s entire body.
Women often complain that their partners don’t touch them unless they are initiating sex. Bad move, boys! Studies have shown that couples that engage in non-sexual touching as well have better, more fulfilling sex.
Lie naked together, arms wrapped around each other with your stomachs and thighs touching. Harmonise your breathing. After about half and hour you should feel a warm rush from the centre of your body. Don’t try this if you’re tired – chances are you’ll fall asleep before you get to the good stuff.
Couples in long-term relationships stop kissing. Long sensual kisses are one of the simplest ways to get your partner in the mood.