Couples with busy lives often spend too little time on foreplay. It’s easy to see how this happens. If you have to be up early to make the children breakfast, drop them at school and commute to work, you probably feel you don’t have the time or energy to spend ages on foreplay. You may dispense with it almost entirely or just use the tried and trusted tricks you know your partner enjoys.
Unfortunately this is a route to sexual boredom. No matter how good something is it will get dull if you never vary it. Furthermore, most women need foreplay if they are going to reach orgasm. Foreplay doesn’t have to begin when you get to the bedroom. You can get your partner in the mood by a suggestive phone call during the day, whispered sweet nothings and kisses while you are cooking or by taking a bath or shower together. You don’t have to spend hours on foreplay to make it interesting. Sometimes concentrating on a new part of the body or doing something new or different can be exciting in itself.
The human body is full of erotic zones – some of which are obvious, others get overlooked. Try these out on your partner and see which ones work.
Eyelids, eyebrows, temples and cheeks can all be erotically charged and it feels extremely intimate to be gently touched or kissed here.
A good kiss is your first physical line of seduction. Use your lips, tongue and teeth to kiss, suck and gently bite.
The nape of the neck and the throat are extremely sensitive to kissing, licking, sucking, stroking and breathing.
The earlobes and the area behind the ear are both highly sensitive, sometimes too sensitive. Licking, sucking, stroking and breathing can all be pleasurable. Some people love tonguing/blowing in their ears, but these are not universally popular.
Hair and head
This is a gentle erogenous zone. Try stroking the hair and massaging the head. Some women love having their hair pulled (careful how you do this), particularly if you do it in a way that suggests you’re overcome with horniness.
Shoulders, arms, wrists and hands
Massage, stroke or gently scratch. Many people love to have their fingers sucked and their wrists nibbled and kissed.
Kiss, stroke and even lick, just don’t tickle!
Breasts and nipples
This area is sensitive in women, less so in men. In women, don’t just zone in on the nipples – the whole breast is sensitive and the sides and underneath respond well to licking and stroking; nipples can be super-sensitive so start gently.
Ankles, feet, toes and soles
Rub, kiss and suck.
Massage, stroking, kissing all work. The spine can be particularly sensitive. Don’t forget to hold or stroke the back when actually having sex.
Behind the knees
The back of the knees is full of nerve endings making it an erogenous hotspot, but also very ticklish.
The inner thighs are full of nerve endings and very sensitive. Touch, stroke, kiss and lick.
Less sensitive than breasts because it contain muscles as well as fat. Holding, kneading, patting, squeezing and spanking can all work. The anus itself is full of sensitive nerve endings.
The perineum is the area between your genitals and your butt. Gently push or lick the area rhythmically.
Prostate and G-Spot
Both can be stimulated using a ‘come here’ gesture, although the G-Spot can remain elusive.
This area is sensitive for everybody! Most women need some clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm.