One of the great joys of sex is knowing how to give pleasure to your partner. Most of us have a fair idea of what works but if you want to discover all your partner’s erogenous zones and what turns them on, try this exercise.
Have your partner lie down on his or her back. They should be comfortable and warm enough. Blindfold them to increase the intensity of sensations.
Beginning at the top, explore every part of his or her body. Use your fingers, nails, hands, mouth, tongue, teeth and breath. Vary the kind of stimulation and pressure from light to painful. Don’t avoid any part of the body!
After each type of stimulation, your partner scores it on a scale from 0 to 3 with 0 meaning it doesn’t do anything special.
This exercise should give you a catalogue of all your partner’s hot spots. Take your time and enjoy it.
A variation on this is the “A/B game”.Try different kinds of touch and ask your partner if they prefer touch A or B.
Here’s an example: If you want to find out what kind of clitoral stimulation your partner likes, choice A could be rapidly licking your partner’s clitoris, while choice B could be rubbing your partner’s clitoris with your finger. Whichever choice your partner prefers then becomes choice A.
Then try a different type of stimulation, such as slowly rubbing your partner’s clitoris with your tongue, until you get another A response. This allows you to build up a picture of the kinds of stimulation that work best.The A/B game works because most people find it easier to say which type of touch they like better, instead of naming something in particular.