Unlike most sexual techniques,Tantric sex isn’t particularly focused on the orgasm. Instead the goal is to prolong sex, increase sexual energy, and foster intimacy with your partner. Tantric sex should be playful, light-hearted and generous. Here are three beginner’s techniques to try.
Harmonize your breathing
This is an easy ways to get ‘in tune’ with your partner. Sit in the yab-yum position – facing one another, the woman’s legs over her partner’s thighs (basically as you would having sex in a sitting position). Inhale when your partner exhales and vice versa. This way you’ll be taking each other’s breath in. Breathing is central to yoga and is the foundation of Tantra.
Having sex with your eyes open creates a sense of deep connection in intimacy. It’s actually quite tricky to do, as most of us tend to get lost in the moment, but make it a goal.
Building Sexual Energy
Foreplay is essential for tantric sex. A slow build up increases a woman’s desire and helps men control ejaculation. While using the breathing technique and the yab-yum position, run your hands from the base of your lover’s spine to the top of his or her head. This is said to spread sexual energy from the genitals across the body.
When you have built up a good amount of sexual energy, place your hands on each other’s hearts and harmonize your breathing again. As the man exhales he should visualize sending sexual energy from his genitals to his partner; and as she inhales she should visualize bringing this energy in through her vagina and up through her body to her heart. When the woman exhales she should visualize sending this energy out through her heart into her partner’s heart. He should inhale, drawing the energy in through his heart and down to the centre of his body.
Continue this circular process for as long as you can.